I asked Mindset Coach Julie Agnew’: If you could get in your DeLorean and travel back in time to when you were 18 what would you say to yourself?
On the surfaces that sounds really selfish doesn’t it but let me explain. I mean care less about what people think of me, care less what I wear and whether I fit into other people’s idea of what pretty or popular is. I think by doing this I would have a real sense of freedom as a teenager and into my twenties.
I was always really good at talking a good game, in fact not just talking a good game but researching to the nth degree. When I finished researching, I had everything I needed to go on big adventures and take steps out of my comfort zone, with confidence that I knew all there was to know about the subject.
So why didn’t I carry out my grand plans? In all honesty, I was scared of getting things wrong and making a fool of myself – the thought of people talking about me behind my back about what a mess I had made was debilitating.
It wasn’t until some time later that when I had coaching in a school I worked in, I realised it was because I was so terrified of what people might think but I realised I wasn’t that exciting and most people couldn’t care less what I did with my life.
I’m wondering what advice you would give your younger self? Is some of that advice still needed in your current life?
For me, it definitely is – I don’t need it in the form of a giant wet fish slap around myself anymore – It is now a little voice reminding me of my core values and that I know what is best for me and my family.
This enables me to take that leap and push myself out of my comfort zone even though it feels scary.
Moving on, what advice what would your 80 year old self tell your current self? I’m wondering if this is a more pertinent question because it is something that can impact on our life now. I want you to imagine your 80 year old self has popped round for a brew and is quizzing you on every area of your life then asking you to rate them from 1 – 10. How would you answer? Then think why have you given that area of your life that number? Also with hindsight on her side what would your 80 year old self say? Would they agree with your rating? If so, why and if not, why not?